“Willpower is likely the most important keystone habit there is. Willpower has more of an impact on individual success than intelligence, talent or education level.” — P. James Holland, The Power of Habit
Do you have strong willpower when it matters most? You see, every human endeavour requires willpower, from the moment we wake until we retire to bed in the evening.
Willpower is the distinguishable characteristic many strive to command, yet slips from our hands, like clutching at water.
Willpower demands our attention and tests our resolve when we least expect it. If we want to improve our health, willpower tries our commitment if we pass by the confectionery section at the supermarket. …
“Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache, carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.” — Napoleon Hill
Do you believe life is meant to be difficult or that tough times come to teach us valuable lessons? Think carefully about your answer because it will reveal whether your pain and suffering can become a doorway into self-discovery.
We seldom gain fulfilment when we’re within our comfort zone, since our biggest accomplishments arise from exploring new horizons.
Humans are creatures of comfort and will do anything to maintain balance in our lives because being safe is fundamental to our survival. …
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.” — Dale Carnegie
Fear and doubt are like uninvited guests, who show up for the night and overstay their welcome. They have nothing to impart other than a distorted reality.
We fear what we don’t understand and then doubt ourselves. This steals away the preciousness of the present moment because we succumb to a fictitious reality.
Have you experienced something like this, whereby fear and doubt convinced you of something that wasn’t true? …
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” — Kahlil Gibran
How would you describe your relationship with yourself? Is it kind, compassionate and nurturing or does it encompass a critical voice?
It is important we understand the way we treat ourselves because it impacts how we relate to others.
I realise many people have been hurt, whether it be through childhood wounds or through intimate relationships. We have all experienced pain and suffering at some point.
However, this shouldn’t mean we carry our emotional wounds and unload them on others.
Whilst we may not have consented to the experience that caused us pain, it is incumbent on us to heal the wounds and find our way back to wholeness. …
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” — Lao Tzu
It’s not the size of our bank account, nor our status or achievements that matter in the end. What truly matters are our relationships and the lives we touch along the way.
Material possessions are vehicles to help us fulfil our life’s purpose, they should not become our life story, since we are likely to be disappointed if we lose them or cease to identify with them. …
“The soul has been given its own ears to hear things that the mind does not understand.” — Rumi
Have you ever experienced a sense of oneness? A feeling of connectedness with life and the universe? What did it feel like on an emotional level?
These types of occurrences are difficult to explain through logic because the soul experiences what the mind cannot explain.
For example, how do you describe the attraction towards another person via logic? You might describe how the other person makes you feel, but it is difficult to define the exact quality of the attraction.
This is because emotions are the language of the soul and can only be experienced through the heart. Soulful living is an invitation to merge with our heart and mind through these faculties. …
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” — Buddha
Thoughts can arise out of nowhere and wreak havoc if we are unaware of them. There’s a Buddhist saying that says: “We are not the sum of our thoughts, rather the observer of the thoughts.”
Many people entertain limiting thoughts, which are grounded in an inaccurate reality such as: “I am not good enough” or “I am overweight.” Such thoughts can lead to self-deprecating thoughts, which fuel the emotional body.
The truth is, our habitual thoughts are not indicative of who we are. This is because thoughts are habits and if repeated often enough, become formed (stuck) in our stream of consciousness and we are likely to believe them. …
“We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.” — George Bernard Shaw
Do you have a sentimental view of the past or is it mixed with guilt and regret? Contemplate this question closely because it will give you a glimpse into whether you are living with remorse or inspiration.
Anger can be a toxic emotion if not dealt with. It weaves its way into our psyche and manifests as physiological symptoms including pain.
I remember years ago working with a female client who experienced unexplained back pain that lasted several years or more. …
“Be observing constantly. Stay open minded. Be eager to learn and improve.”–John Wooden
Do you consider yourself to be open-minded? Do you objectively listen to other people’s views and opinions without reacting with your own biases?
To be open minded means being mindful of our thoughts and emotional constitution. To harness our inner wisdom beckons us to connect with our heart and mind.
As we call on our inner wisdom, cultivating open-mindedness becomes an extension of our inner state of being. To reveal our inner wisdom, we must be willing to cultivate a state of open-mindedness, rather than remain ill-informed.
Dogma and rigid thinking leads to intolerance, which describes the state of the world as it exists. …
“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” — Steve Maraboli
It is important for our personal development to learn how to love ourselves. If we don’t, it is hard to expect others to love us. Whilst humans have many faults and shortcomings, embracing our faults is central to accepting ourselves as we are.
Loving ourselves should become our highest priority if we wish to live authentically, from a place of non-resistance. …