“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” — Hermann Hesse
Whilst its difficult to put your finger on it, life has not been the same as long as you can recall. Failed endeavours and mounting pressures have left you with waned enthusiasm to make things happen. A loss of motivation and an uneasy feeling of being ‘stuck’ and stagnant often fuels your thoughts.
What could be leading you to feel this way? Why do we experience episodes of unrest? What could it be calling us to be attentive to? There are a…
“You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding.” — Cheryl Strayed
Sometimes, it feels we are like a deer in the headlights waiting to escape the drama of life, wondering why we don’t get out of the way. For example, have you followed a path you had little intention of choosing? You might look back and wonder if it was the right decision?
It does not mean your choices are wrong. Consider it akin to trying on clothes before…
“We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future.” — George Bernard Shaw
Do you have a sentimental view of the past or is it mixed with guilt and regret? Contemplate this question closely because it will give you a glimpse into whether you are living with remorse or inspiration.
Anger can be a toxic emotion if not dealt with. It weaves its way into our psyche and manifests as physiological symptoms including pain. …
“Life is the dancer and you are the dance.” — Eckhart Tolle
How often do you feel good, for no other reason than the experience itself? How do you create these good feelings? Do you listen to music? Exercise? Spend time with those you love or something else?
I realise I’m being particular about my questions because I want you to connect with those pleasant emotions. Some people feel guilty because others might be in pain or suffering. Therefore, they feel obligated to downplay their own emotions.
But this doesn’t serve anyone, because feeling good about yourself can help to…
“I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Even during the darkest periods of our life, we still have choices. Whilst it may not seem this way, it is because we become trapped in our pain and suffering and don’t realise the way out. Knowing this, I’d like you to reflect on a recent difficulty in your life. Perhaps it was last year or more recently?
Think about the lessons gained from the experience. Yes, it may be challenging…
“Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.” — Emily Dickinson
How would you describe your thoughts? Are you someone that over-analyses everything? Do you look for signs before you take action? This is isn’t about ascribing blame but trying to understand our thoughts better.
For example, I used to over-analyse everything. In fact, one of the reasons I began meditating is because I couldn’t fall asleep at night due to the incessant mental chatter. I would analyse my entire day, which lead to worry, anxiety, and fear. Can you relate?
I’ve met many people over…
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ― Steve Maraboli
This lingering pandemic is teaching us many lessons, least of which is we can’t hide from ourselves anymore. When isolated during restrictions, we must face our trauma.
There is no other way. It is an act of courage to deal with our emotions, without fearing or running away from. For in deferring our difficult emotions, we postpone our healing.
Can you identify? For example, have you been coping in recent months, being isolated from family, friends and loved ones? What difficult emotions have surfaced…
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” ― Charles R. Swindoll
Everything that happens in our life reflects our inner state of being. It has to because no two people have the same lesson from their experience. Therefore, it underscores that what we think is externalised in our reality, whether we are conscious of it.
Many people struggle with this idea and try to change outside circumstances to coincide with their inner state of being. For example, if we are unhappy being single, we will look for a partner. …
“You have to take risks. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.” — Paulo Coelho
Most people panic when their life takes an unexpected turn. How about you? Have you experienced sudden changes in your life? If so, what lessons did you learn?
Reflect on your answers as I outline how to respond when life takes an unexpected turn. There’s no doubt these experiences can be unsettling, especially if we are unprepared.
It may seem our foundation is crumbling before us and the uncertainty of the future. But this is just…
“Let there be an opening into the quiet that lies beneath the chaos where you find the peace you did not think possible and see what shimmer within the storm.” — John O’ Donohue
To remain centred amidst the chaos in the world is challenging, yet signifies a renewing act of strength. It’s no surprise the news media sensationalise the reporting of events to hook us in.
They use bold words and Breaking News in their headlines, while giving us a glimpse of the actual story. But they’re not giving us the full the story, which is important.