Get To The Root Of What Is Causing Your Pain

“Sense your presence, the naked, unveiled, unclothed beingness. It is untouched by young or old, rich or poor, good or bad, or any other attributes.” — Eckhart Tolle

I want you to think about what is taking place in your life right now.

Are your actions driven by the impulse to do or gain something?

Allow me to explain.

A good deal of our activities relate to doing or gaining something in order to feel good about ourselves.

Whether pursuing a goal, the emotions generated because of our achievement provide a sense of satisfaction and fulfilment.

I’m not discounting the value of goals, but I want you to understand that doing and having is not the aim for your life, it comes from who you are as a person. …

Our Deepest Fear

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.…It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.…” — Marianne Williamson

An awakened mind is a mind liberated from fear.

Marianne Williamson’s header quote is a reminder from the acclaimed spiritual activist, often misattributed to Nelson Mandela’s inauguration speech.

She suggests it is not our darkness which we are afraid of, rather our magnificence.

We may be unwilling to reveal our brilliance in the event others are made to feel inferior.

This is significant given the dynamics of peer pressure and culture nowadays. …

Life Can Change When We Least Expect It

“As you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life. It means fear is no longer a dominant factor in what you do and no longer prevents you from taking action to initiate change.” — Eckhart Tolle

I want you to consider that infinite possibilities are conceivable and life is anything but fixed.

Before we go on, I want you to reflect on moments throughout your life when a situation occurred beyond what you consider normal.

Perhaps it was a chance encounter of a love interest you reunited with after decades.

Or you were one of a thousand applicants in a job interview and were offered the position, despite interviewing poorly for the job. …

Don’t Get Discouraged When The Going Gets Tough

“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”– Dale Carnegie

Can you identify with the following situation?

No matter how hard you tried, your efforts seem to work against you.

Roadblocks, setbacks and dead ends stop you from achieving the success you deserve?

Don’t despair, for some of life’s greatest victories have come to those who persisted despite external conditions.

There is no finite, linear progression toward the realisation of one’s goals.

Success is achieved through a series of obstacles, challenges and smaller victories. …

Look For The Gifts And Lessons

“But then again, maybe bad things happen because it’s the only way we can keep remembering what good is supposed to look like.” — Jodi Picoult

Think of a current negative situation you are wrestling with?

It might be related to a relationship, finances, health or something close and personal to you.

I’m not discounting the strength of your emotions but inviting you to resist labelling the situation as negative for now.

Having endured countless challenges over the years, what seemed as a negative experience resulted in the greatest contribution to my personal growth.

Later, as the pieces of the puzzle came together, I could see how things were working perfectly for my greater good. …

Seize Every Opportunity

“Many people die with their music still in them. Why is this so? Too often it is because they are always getting ready to live. Before they know it, time runs out.” — Oliver Wendell Holmes

When it became clear that the Master was going to die the disciples were depressed.

The Master smilingly said, “Don‘t you see that death gives loveliness to life?”

“No. We’d much rather you never died.”

“Whatever is truly alive must die. Look at the flowers: only plastic flowers never die.”

Tony de Mello’s fable underscores the message that a life well lived does not perceive death as absolute; it celebrates its meaningful existence. …

The Search for Meaning

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” — Socrates

I want you to consider whether your choices are devoid of conscious intent?

Self-awareness is a key attribute humans possess, which distinguishes us from the animal kingdom.

The notable mirror test developed by the psychologist Gordon Gallup Jr. is used as an indicator of awareness in animals.

In the experiment, animals are shown an image of themselves reflected via a mirror.

If they recognise the image (often a marking is made on the animal to determine if they identify it), it is deemed they are self-aware.

Interestingly, children fail this test until they are 1 ½–2 years old. Therefore, self-awareness is the bedrock upon which we identify with our beingness. …

Happiness Is A By-Product Of Improved Self-Esteem

“Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.” — Steve Maraboli

I’d like to push you outside your comfort zone, if you are willing to take the test?

Ok, let us start with a question: Are you happy right now?

If not, what is the cause of your unhappiness?

You might not know and that’s fine, but how will you recognise happiness if you cannot distinguish being unhappy?

This is not about blame or judgement, but you consented to be pushed outside your comfort zone.

Shall we go on?

Do you make an attempt to step outside your comfort zone often? …