How To Develop Self-Trust And Build Confidence

The Answers We Seek Appear At Inopportune Moments

“When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone.” — George O’Neil

There’s a tale by Anthony de Mello which underlines the message that the truth is found within us and not in someone’s teachings.

To a visitor who asked to become his disciple the Master said: “You may live with me but don’t become my follower.”

“Whom then shall I follow?”

“No one. The day you follow someone you cease to follow truth.”

We must avoid following other people blindly because everyone is searching for answers of their own.

A teacher can take us so far while our inner wisdom has access to absolute intelligence.

No one is infallible, by virtue of our human existence we are prone to mistakes, and the enlightened among us are no different.

Occasionally, we might come across a quotation in a book or overhear a line in a film that resonates with us.

This is where we ought to explore this further and be curious of the underlying message behind it.

Have you experienced this before, where a message suddenly appears from nowhere?

I experience these occurrences all the time. Truth reveals itself through self-exploration.

Occasionally, the answers we seek appear at inopportune moments.

Therefore, we must welcome these insights, for they hold significant clues to our life’s journey.

I’m reminded of the tale when human beings were gods and abused their wisdom.

So God took it away from them and hid it where it could never be found. Where to hide it was the question. So, God called a council of chief gods to help him decide.

“Let’s bury it deep in the earth,” said the chief gods. God responded, “No, that will not do because humans will dig into the earth and find it.”

Then the gods said, “Let’s sink it in the deepest ocean.” Again God responded, “No, not there, for they will learn to dive into the ocean and will find it.”

“Let’s take it to the top of the highest mountain and hide it there.”

But once again God replied, “No that will not do, because they will eventually climb every mountain to reclaim their wisdom.”

Then the gods gave up and said, “We don’t know where to hide it, because there’s no place on earth or the sea that humans will not reach.”

God thought for a long time and replied, “Here’s what we’ll do. We will hide their wisdom deep in the centre of their own being, for humans will never think to look there.”

All the gods agreed this was the perfect hiding place, and the deed was done.

Since then, humans have roamed the earth: digging, diving, climbing and exploring, searching for something contained within themselves.

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How To Develop Trust In Ourselves

“No one and nothing outside of you can give you salvation, or free you from the misery. You have to light your own lamp. You have to know the miniature universe that you yourself are.” — Banani Ray

Wisdom is available to us all and we needn’t look for it in some ancient texts. The key, is to be silent enough so we can tune in to the inner counsel that communicates to us.

It was the Buddha who cautioned following other people’s teachings centuries ago when he said: “Do not give up your authority and follow blindly the will of others. This way will lead to only delusion.”

We must own our mistakes, since they hold clues to the realisation of the truth. The greatest adventure we will embark upon is to discover our truth and live it to the best of our ability.

I relate it to finding the correct frequency on a radio. We might dial one way and miss the reception entirely, then dial the other way and land on the correct frequency.

For example, have there been circumstances where your truth conflicted with loved ones, yet you stuck to your guns?

Our life’s passage is a fleeting moment in eternity and what appears as the wrong turn is often life unfolding as it should.

We must be wary of handing over our authority to another since they may disappoint us.

This is clear in relationships where one partner delegates their happiness or emotional well-being to the other, only to realise they were deceived.

If we assign our faith in others, we will suffer because few people will live up to our expectations.

This kills many relationships because we believe we are owed something. People will let us down when their truth does not align with ours.

To find the answers we’re looking for, we ought to connect with our inner spirit since it reveals itself through us.

If we’re constantly besieged by noise, the voice within us is drowned out. Often, the answers we seek will appear as an inner knowing, intuition or as messages or symbols.

Therefore, we must let go of worry, which is not as easy as it sounds. This is because we live in a world overshadowed by news events that occupy our attention.

Our brains are alerted to imminent fear because we sympathise with news stories, instead of turning our attention to our inner wisdom.

Similarly, it pays to trust our intuition because in doing so, we will have discovered the keys to life.

We must trust ourselves more often, which I realise can be difficult at first, however self-trust is the basis to self-fulfilment.

Key lessons are contained within our life’s events and they should not be interpreted as random happenstance, but used to align ourselves with our noblest truth.

As a final point, to build self-trust, it is important we clear clutter from our life like: unwanted material possessions, disempowering thoughts, harmful relationships and unfulfilled career opportunities.

Simplifying life helps us to let go of unnecessary complications and concentrate on what is meaningful to us.

As the Master said to the visitor: to follow someone is to deny our own wisdom, contained within your rich supply of knowing.

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