How To Stop Being A Victim To Your Fears

The Promoting Of Fear

“Let there be an opening into the quiet that lies beneath the chaos where you find the peace you did not think possible and see what shimmer within the storm.” — John O’ Donohue

It seems chaos is everywhere nowadays and remaining centred signifies a renewing act of strength.

It’s no surprise the news media sensationalise reporting world events to draw us in.

They use bold words and Breaking News in their headlines to captivate our attention, while giving us a glimpse of the real story.

As a consequence, our mind perceives impending danger when regularly exposed to distressing news and creates stress in the body, with no real threat.

Have you noticed people who declare the world is terrifying, are the same ones who clutch to distressing news events?

They base their assessment on negative experiences without considering an alternative view.

Assuredly, what you look for you will find.

The media propagates a biased view of events we know little about.

We concede because it’s broadcast into our living rooms or social media channels and we accept it as truth.

Judging by the tone of the article you might assume I’m anti-media.

I’m not, yet if we allow it to be our only source of information, we are at the mercy of relying on the fear it promotes.

There’s little reporting of good news events nowadays other than a 30 second highlight, depicting a cat rescued by a passer-by stuck in a tree.

To rely on news as our source of information incites fear.

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Change Is Contagious

“Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.” Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.” — Marianne Williamson

Atrocities have existed for thousands of years since mankind first roamed the Earth and were more severe in ancient times.

Crime rates have decreased in parts of the world due to advances in technology, a shift in consciousness and the development of civilised society.

When there is chaos in our life, it may represent disorder in our thinking.

So how can we maintain equanimity when there’s chaos in the world?

It lies in our response to handle negativity and not catastrophise situations.

If we are drawn to the pessimism in the world, consider the potential of other people to be lured into the same fear mongering?

In contrast, what if our thoughts are enriching instead of fuelled by fear?

Collectively, we extend peace instead of panic into the world.

Humanity cries out for people like you and me to impact others — change is contagious and carries its own momentum.

It begins right where we are, in our own corner of the globe.

Peace is only a thought away.

Consider the power of that phrase if it is acted upon by every person on the planet?

A negative or hateful thought towards others, contributes to unrest in the world.

If hundreds of people buy into this, the collective energy of humanity is negatively affected.

I respect the words of the Dalai Lama who said: “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

It’s clear if you’re reading this, you value personal growth or are intrigued by the insight these words offer.

Therefore, I invite you to move into your heart when you feel unsettled and get a sense of the peace there.

Engage in meditation to turn your attention to the silent voice within.

By moving into your heart, even as little as five minutes a day, connects you with the pure love and intelligence that guides the universe.

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Happiness Is Contagious

“The state of nowness is available in that moment of squeeze. In that awkward, ambiguous moment is our own wisdom mind. Right there in the uncertainty of everyday chaos is our own wisdom mind.” — Pema Chodron

I cannot describe why bad things happen in the world. It is remiss of me to claim I have the answers when I don’t.

What I propose is a way to manage the chaos, not to make sense of it.

When we go within, all is well and safe.

We remain present and connected to our moment to moment experience, knowing everything is fine and we needn’t worry about the future.

Fear is a future orientated occurrence.

When we project our thoughts ahead of time, we worry things will not work out as we hope for and we experience pain and suffering.

Ask yourself the following questions when you experience this restless state: How do I feel right now?

Am I safe?

Are my needs met?

If the answer is yes, you needn’t buy into the fear others impose on you.

When you experience negative or fearful thoughts, do nothing other than reassure yourself you are safe and taken care of.

To shift from a negative to a positive thought is like trying to do a U-turn on an ocean liner.

It’s impossible, yet if we change course over a distance, it’s more likely to happen.

So with our thoughts. To move from a negative to a neutral thought is the first step towards rewiring our brain, from fear to inspiration.

It takes time, patience and diligence because we are habituated to this way of thinking.

It’s wired into our genetic nature to discern negativity around us.

Similarly, we must immerse ourselves in activities that nourish our soul whether catching up with friends and loved ones or taking part in hobbies we enjoy.

This enhances our psychological and emotional well-being. Happiness is contagious, so others feel good in our company.

We inspire them to adopt a similar attitude and transform lower emotional states.

We don’t have to be a victim to the fear in the world. The news and social media are one form of information not intended to purport the truth.

I therefore invite you to be mindful of the information you are consuming.

Is it infused with fear, hate, anger or filled with humour, peace and love?

We have the power to stay centred, calm and stable amid the chaos, since peacefulness is always a thought away.

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