How To Stop Trying To Control Everything And Trust In Life

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Striving Less To Get What You Want

“The moment of surrender is not when life is over, it’s when it begins.” — Marianne Williamson

Are you happy with your life? Is it unfolding as it should or do you face difficulties and challenges you cannot overcome? It’s important we know whether we’re trying to force things to happen or allow life to unfold as it should.

What do I mean by this? Think of a current issue you are trying to resolve. Despite your efforts, has it worked out in your favour? Why not? For example, if you are in a relationship that is causing you trouble, why haven’t your efforts to change the situation succeeded?

Despite our efforts to control circumstances, we have little control after all. I mention this not to minimise your power but so you understand life isn’t something to be controlled. When we surrender to what is unfolding, everything will develop as it should.

You see, we are conditioned from an early age to take control of our lives. Our parents, teachers and people of influence reinforce this message to go after what we want. I don’t disagree with it. However, when we don’t get what we want, it might seem like life is conspiring against us, where in fact life is functioning perfectly.

Is this an idea you’re willing to embrace and become a co-creator of your life? I assure you adopting this way of thinking needn’t involve surrendering your power.

In fact, you recognise the source of your power moves effortlessly through you and requires striving less to get what you want. It entails co-operation instead of commiseration.

For example, if you are a relationship and believe your partner is the cause of your problems, how could you stop trying to control the situation? Well, for starters you may want to stop trying to control your partner. Secondly, it would be helpful to better understand your partner and their motives.

Thirdly, it requires not trying to manipulate your partner to get what you want. Because the other person may concede to your demands if you try hard enough.