Stop Holding Yourself Back From Reaching Your True Potential

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Our Deepest Fear

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.…It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.…” — Marianne Williamson

An awakened mind is a mind liberated from fear.

Marianne Williamson’s header quote is a reminder from the acclaimed spiritual activist, often misattributed to Nelson Mandela’s inauguration speech.

She suggests it is not our darkness which we are afraid of, rather our magnificence.

We may be unwilling to reveal our brilliance in the event others are made to feel inferior.

This is significant given the dynamics of peer pressure and culture nowadays.

We may feel safe playing small and blending in with the masses, since it shifts the spotlight off us.

However, the self-doubts and imposter syndrome may still be evident: “What if I am not good enough?”

“What if I’m found out?”

“There are others who are better than I am.”

This is apparent in popular culture which epitomises the Tall Poppy Syndrome.

Many people fear revealing their uniqueness may be inappropriate to their friends, family, and colleagues.

Playing small serves no one, especially yourself.

You are unique in many ways and your gifts and talents are a unique expression of universal intelligence.

To deny others your gifts and talents may be likened to a tree refusing to bear fruit in season, since it doubts its source.

How do you feel about this?

Have you held back stepping into your true power because you will be judged?

Sometimes the antidote to fear is to take inspired action regardless, according to Susan Jeffers who wrote: Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway.

I draw your attention to the famous inventor Thomas Edison. Had he withheld his invention of the electric light bulb, we would be living in darkness.

Another steward of notable inventions was Benjamin Franklin, an accomplished printer and inventor.

His famous Franklin stove may well have been patented had he chose to do so.

Instead, he donated his time and money to developing the invention by giving it away, believing it would benefit many people.

We may doubt our magnificence since it directly coincides with self-esteem.

Self-doubt is toxic and debilitating, as it serves to convince us of our unworthiness.

It is the silent voice within that we fear and judge our self-worth by.

We fear our personal power and the self-doubt which tends to rear its ugly head from an early age.

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Playing It Safe Does Not Serve You

“If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

As an example of how our environment shapes our identity, it is estimated by the time we are seventeen years old we will have heard the phrase: “No, you can’t” an average of 150,000 times.

In contrast, we will have heard: “Yes, you can” approximately 5,000 times.

It is no wonder disempowering beliefs find their way into our psyche.

We are entitled to goodness, abundance, and life’s wondrous pleasures. They are waiting for us to claim.

Instead, we unknowingly doubt our true potential, our future vision and goals.

Marianne Williamson’s poem goes on to say: “Your playing small doesn’t serve the world…as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”

As we claim and step into our glory, we allow others to see the possibility of attaining the same freedom.

For this reason we applaud and salute the underdog. We identify with them since it is embedded into culture to thrive and succeed.

There is an underdog within us all waiting to appear.

Yet, we unconsciously hold ourselves down convinced of our unworthiness and remain in the darkness.

To sit on the sidelines is safe since we cannot be judged, labelled, or criticised there.

But safe never serves anyone, let alone ourselves.

Is this beginning to make sense to you, insofar as holding back your greatness does little than keep you stuck and stagnant?

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Reveal Your Talents And Genius

“If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie

Leadership expert and speaker Robin Sharma once said: “If people aren’t laughing at your dreams, they’re not big enough.”

Knowing this, I remind you of the baby elephant principle which sums up the truth of our fears.

Baby elephants held in captivity are chained at the leg to a small wooden peg in the ground.

As they mature to full size, they are capable of breaking free given their relative size.

Yet as adults they remain tethered to the chain, conditioned to believe it has the power to hold them captive.

In some ways our life mimics the behaviour of adult elephants.

Many of us form limiting beliefs during childhood which keep us imprisoned as adults.

To overcome our deepest fear, we must acknowledge our Authentic Self and connect with life at the deepest level instead of trying to intellectualising it.

Our core self is boundless and not defined by limitations.

So, as we merge with our deepest wisdom, it becomes effortless to reveal our talents and genius to the world.

Fear is an illusion which deprives us of our power.

It stifles our growth and convinces us of our unworthiness while limiting our potential.

Our core self is unbound and limitless in its potential. Think limitless possibilities and acknowledge your inner richness.

Considering this, I want you to write down three ways where you may be holding yourself back?

What steps can you take to overcome this?

It might be as little as having the intention to take action and find ways to express yourself more often.

Once you make an inner declaration towards greatness, the universe acknowledges it by bringing forth opportunities which allow your magnificence to shine.

But first you must take the lead.

You must take the first step toward claiming your own power.

Call To Action

Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? Have you had enough of not achieving the success you seek? If so, download your FREE copy of my e-Book NAVIGATE LIFE right now, and start your amazing journey of greatness today!

Self-empowerment Author, Expert Speaker and Coach. Your Journey Towards Greatness Starts Here: http://www.tonyfahkry.com/

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